The Tammy Taylor Mrs South Africa is an opportunity for women to find themselves and learn that they are never too old to follow their dreams and become voices of change.
Tammy Taylor Mrs South Africa does away with the ideals that do not match real women, but instead showcase true beauty that shines from within and celebrate every woman and her unique femininity.
Dzelisile Mbelu is a wife, mother, entrepreneur, world changer and a great advocate for the empowerment of women, youth and children. ‘I am in full support of the alleviation of poverty in Africa. I am an aspiring servant leader. Entering Mrs South Africa is to fulfil my dream to encourage victims of abuse to identify and help them speak out about their challenges.’
As a victim of abuse herself, Mbelu says she can attest to other women in similar situations. Her mission is to be a part of the solution that addresses issues of women abuse, by championing personal mastery (purpose) as one of the catalysts to preventing many from falling victim to these challenges.
You are currently a finalist for Mrs. SA, in a world where many feel pageants are losing their place in society, why is this pageant worth our time?
The Mrs South Africa pageant has evolved from focusing on just beauty and fashion, to being a female empowerment movement. It is about showcasing the virtues of the real and relateable South African woman who is a mother, sister, entrepreneur and leader in her community. She lives the spirit of UBUNTU and her beauty shines from within.
Why did you enter the pageant?
I entered the pageant because MRS SA’s vision is aligned with what I stand for. I also wanted to fulfill my personal dream to identify victims of abuse, encourage and help them to speak out about their challenges. This platform will give me the experience and opportunity to share my story, meet and work with other people that share similar views.
#ItEndswithme, tell us about that and what the inspiration behind that is?
#ItEndswithme was inspired by my life journey from childhood to present day. It talks to how my upbringing, background and environment lead to exposure of different types of abuse and how these impacted my decision making, relationships, wellbeing and health.
I went from being raised in a polygamous family, to marrying young and being in a challenging marriage, and depressed—to being happy, healthy and ready to help other women get out from the same situation.
You speak openly about having had challenges in your marriage before, how important is it that more women speak up and share and what has your sharing done for you and your marriage, as well as the other relationships you have?
All marriages go through various challenges, the difference is in how the challenges are handled within the marriage. It is very important for women to speak up about their issues to enable them to get the required help and get tools to disrupt the dysfunctional cycle. Speaking up has helped me out of depression and I have gained my confidence, identified my purpose and gained appropriate tools. It has also helped me greatly improve on my relationships.
I wish to do more for women and children. I can only do that if people can keep me in the competition by voting for me: SMS my name Dzelisile Mbelu using the number 35959.
Looking at all you do, one would say you are a modern superwoman, how do you handle the balancing act?
Funny enough I have had to accept that I am not a super woman and maintaining a balanced lifestyle, requires a lot of communication and a good support system.
I always ask for support where required and focus on prioritising my responsibilities, one day at a time.