What not to get your boyfriend for his birthday

Let’s be honest, ladies, men are tired of the same recycled “birthday gifts” that feel more like last-minute fillers than genuine surprises. You know the ones: the predictable vest, another pack of socks, that standard-issue shirt, or the dreaded “me in lingerie” reveal. Cute? Maybe. Memorable? Not really.

Here’s the thing, just like us, men want to feel important, celebrated, and genuinely loved on their special day. Their birthdays shouldn’t feel like a checklist of clichés. Instead of offering up the “gift that keeps on giving” (if you know what I mean), think about what would actually make him feel seen.

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So, what not to do? Don’t hand him a tie you grabbed on your way home. Don’t fall back on the convenience store cologne. Don’t assume that a quick “I’m the present” moment will suffice. He’s your partner, not a teenager who just wants a poster on his wall.

Instead, push yourself to go out of the box: think personalised experiences, niche hobbies he never indulges in, or that one thing he’s been eyeing but won’t buy for himself. Maybe it’s tickets to a game, a signed vinyl of his favourite band, a weekend getaway planned down to his favourite food spots, or even a gadget that complements his hobbies.

Because here’s the secret, thoughtful gifts don’t have to scream expensive; they just have to whisper, “I know you, I see you, and I value you.”

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Here’s the official list of gifts you should never get your boyfriend for his big day:

1. Socks

Nothing says “I forgot until last night” quite like a pack of socks. Practical? Yes. Birthday-worthy? Absolutely not.

2. Vests/Underwear

This isn’t a birthday, it’s laundry day. Let him buy his own basics.

3. A Tie

Unless your boyfriend is a die-hard tie collector (do those exist?), this is just another boring addition to his work wardrobe.

4. A Wallet

Newsflash: he already has one. And if he needs a new one, trust me, he wants to pick it himself.

5. Basic Shirts

A plain button-up or T-shirt isn’t a gift, it’s a placeholder. His birthday deserves more thought than a generic shopping trip.

6. Cheap Cologne

That drugstore fragrance you panic-bought on the way home? It’s a no. If you want to gift scent, invest in something that feels special and tailored to him.

7. You in Lingerie (as the gift)

Sexy? Sure. Thoughtful? Not really. Lingerie is fun, but it shouldn’t be the only surprise. Spoil him with something he can keep, not just unwrap.

8. Random Gadgets

That weird kitchen tool or gimmicky device you saw on sale doesn’t count as thoughtful. If it doesn’t connect to his hobbies, skip it.

9. Cash in an Envelope

You’re his partner, not his aunt. Money feels cold and careless, birthdays are for personal touches.

10. The “I Am the Gift” Joke

Cute for TikTok, disappointing in real life. He deserves more than just a bow on your head.

11. Grooming Kits (Yes, Even Beard Oil Sets)

Unless he specifically asked for it, gifting him yet another beard kit or grooming set feels generic. He doesn’t want a bathroom shelf full of products he’ll never use.

So this year (or next year), ditch the socks and the silky “surprise.” Give him something that feels like more than a placeholder. After all, love is in the details, and birthdays are the perfect excuse to show you’ve been paying attention.