Are your girlfriends saying you really need an older man? Are you tired of dating guys your own age who don’t have their act together, are there one minute, gone the next? We get it. Sometimes dating someone around your age is gruelling and it just doesn’t, no matter how hard you try, spell out blissful romance.
What you will be happy to hear, though, is just how many pros there are for aiming older (read: higher). Here are some of the perks of getting with a man with a few more years of experience… Trust us, you won’t look back.
1 Crisis averted
They’ve *hopefully* gone through their turning 30 mid-life crisis, which means they’re at least more likely to know what they want. This means three things. You can feel properly secure and on even ground. AND, they’re actually committed to you. No BS. No drama.
2 Older (generally) means wiser
They have wisdom. People who’ve lived longer just tend to have picked it up… They’ve most likely learnt from mistakes, travelled more, refined their tastes and know who they are.
3 They’ve already messed up
Sure, we’ve all heard the cynics who claim maturity doesn’t always come with age but, for most people, we have hope. The way they approach things is probably a lot different to how they did when they were in their early 20s. They’ve had time to mess up, reflect on it and remedy what went wrong in the past.
4 They’re stable
Statically they’re more likely to have their ‘stuff’ together. A job, a place, a routine.
5 Communication has been (almost) mastered
They’ve probably learned a fair few things about communication over the years. They’re likely in a good position to know what women want, how to read those signs and… it probably translates well in the bedroom. Always a plus.
6 No need for clinginess
They’re more likely to be self-sufficient. They won’t get jealous when you just want to hang out with your friends because, having built an independent life themselves, they probably want to do the same thing with theirs from time to time.
7 They WANT to be here
Finally (and probably most importantly), they wouldn’t be in a relationship if they didn’t want to be. They’ve had the time to “focus on their career” and “play the field” and now they know what they want in a partner. The chances of them flaking and messing around is minimal because they’ve picked you, as you’ve picked them. Build it, nurture it and enjoy it.
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